*Warning this post is both very angry and potentially triggering.*
On my way into uni this morning I saw two advertising posters which made me angry. One had me wanting to smash it up with whatever I could lay my hands on.
It was talking about rape and the counselling services this organisation provided for victims. All very well and good, but its tagline was
Rape happens, talk about it with us
The ‘talk about it with us’ is a paraphrase, but ‘rape happens’ isn’t.
Rape doesn’t HAPPEN. Gagging for a cup of tea when you get home at the end of a long day happens, forgetting your sister’s birthday happens when you are really busy.
But rape doesn’t HAPPEN. It is inflicted upon women by male perpetrators who have made a conscious choice to do so.
I am very disappointed that a charity supporting rape victims choses its words like this. I would search for what charity it is, but I am at university and I don’t want to type that into google – I am scared as to what will come up.
The other poster? Transport for London (government organisation who are responsible for all of the transport in London – tubes, buses etc. Their poster said (again slight paraphrasing)
No, stop, please, no, stop, stop, please, no…stop taking unlicensed mini cabs
this was over a picture of a woman’s face contorted in horror in a cab. So – you see women it’s your fault you get raped – you got into the wrong cab. Not the cab drivers fault at all, or transport for London’s fault for not cracking down on this. They may well have some sort of policing operation to stop this, but that is not what they are focusing on in this poster.
Shakesville writes very eloquently on this – what she refers to as rape culture. Go and read her post for a more coherent response.
Both of these posters put the focus on women and completely ignore the fact that if it wasn’t for men forcing this on women it wouldn’t be an issue.
That’s all I can say on this right now, I have rushed to the computer room at uni to vent my rage and share it with you, as I suspect most people will look at me as if I am mad if I tell them my feelings about this. I have to go and calm down now as I am part teaching a session with some other people for the rest of my colleagues on my course.